Surviving Divorce

When a divorce is immenent, it's time to address both the legel issues and the emotional titlewave your about to ride.  Unless your a lawyer, the legel issues that will unfold are best left in the hand of a well chosen Lawyer.  A good lawyer will be able to councel you through the neccessary legel issues and put some of your questions to rest.  Don't fight the laws, work within the laws and the advice of your lawyer.  

Steps to Building a Positive Support System:  Surviving Divorce!

It's human nature to fear what you don't know and avoid change.  You need to tell family and friends, which isn't easy, but this is an opportunity for some of those relationships to grow while getting their support. 

It is counter-productive and damaging to use the children as leverage.  When the boxing gloves go on for another round between you and your spouse, remember the strain it is putting on the children who are watching or listening.  Children absorb everything and find ways to blaim themselves, become moody, scared, withdrawn and can sense hostility while feeling powerless and vulnerable.   

Even an adult would have trouble dealing with all those emotions at once.  The children need that secure feeling of love from both parents.  A Mother and Father are the two most important people in the children's life, continue to give them the hugs they need, while supporting the love they have for your ex-spouse.   If you can't find the right words to help calm your child, remember a good cuddling sometimes works.  

Try to think of it as a chance at a New Positive Future.   Think of it as a second chance or a do over.  So many people say if they would have known at 18 what they knew at 40, things would be different.  It's not to late to pretend your 18 again and start over with new dreams and goals.  

Support can come from family, friends, church, neighbors, counceling groups, blogs, and even a good book. 

          Your getting a "Do Over" 
       Change can be hard but Good!

Add any helpful tips that you found useful here or at my other blog site and read tips that will help you decide if divorcing your title is the right step for your situation.

Posted at 12:46PM Jun 05, 2009 by Victoria Luhring in Divorce and Your Home  |  Comments[0]